For a person to want to adopt to child and then treat them and love them as if they were there own is such an amazing ability. I look up to people, such as Angelina Jolie, my adoptive parents and anyone else who has adopted. To be able to treat a and care for a child even though you know they are not yours biological is such a great thing to be able to do.

Don't you think that at the back of these peoples' head is that thought: Maybe my child will leave me one day and want to go back to her birth parents. To have this thought yet still love the child as if they are your own is inspirational.

What I do think is wrong with adoption is the way agencies and people treat it as if the baby/ child is a thing- something you go and shop for and then purchase.  I do think adoption is wrong in some cases- as the child never gets to have a say...... they just get flown over to other countries and randomly placed in any family. This can have long term damage on the child - sometimes I feel like I am a little puppy and I was exported overseas and put in any family- such a spontaneous action, I could have ended up anywhere.

Personally, I don't know how you could ever give away your own child.... I know I live in a different society to other people in this world but I know that if I did loose a child, the pain I would carry would be unbearable as I know I had lost apart of myself. I think that children are best off with their natural parents, as when they are separated from them at birth they loose this bond/ connection which they search for all there lives, causing them much pain and hurt. On the other hand, if the parents treat the child badly or keeping the baby is going to cause much psychological damage to the parent that is when I feel that children should be adopted, not just because the birth parents were "too young", not financial stable, or not socially accepted.

I think Angelina Jolie would make a very dedicated mother, even if she did know about the illegal side to the adoption, I think she would have only gone along with it because she wanted a child so much and perhaps because when she visited the orphanage she felt she had a special connection or bond with Maddox. She must have had some say in who she adopted. I do not think this is wrong- if she is going to provide Maddox with a loving and secure environment and he is content and happy - there is nothing wrong with this. The problem with adoption is that just because the adoptive parents love the child as if they are there own, it doesn't mean that the child is going to feel the same way. This is what I think is so difficult to understand about adoption.

Michelle
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